Extein, Andrew, "Apparently, I am a
Pedophile"; Living and Coping as a Child-Lover in the
Netherlands; Fall 2005; Academic Advisor: Frans Gieles,
Academic Director: Kevin Connors; School for International Training;
Sexuality, Gender, and Identity; Amsterdam, The Netherlands
How do child-lovers in the Netherlands express, understand, experience, and cope with their feelings? I have conducted interviews with six self-identified child-lovers to help me answer this question.
In a birdís-eye view, I can say that my assumption that sexuality should be the central desire of child-lovers appeared to be not true, at least for my sample. I want to plea for the use of correct and neutral terms to describe child-love, especially to make a difference between feelings (pedophilia) and acts (like pedosexuality). It became clear that society and even professionals have a lot of misconceptions about this topic. So, all the men of my sample had to cope with their feelings, a process of several years. All succeeded, mostly by educating themselves and one another about the nature of their feelings they have to live with. I may say that it is my strong impression that all of them are able to live with their feelings in a constructive, positive, and healthy way.